We never get the chance to have any 'us' time and we don't even know what we enjoy doing together any more. Even when we are together, we sit around bored because we don't know what to do. I know I'm in love - I can feel it inside, but showing it becomes difficult when we never get the chance to 'do fun stuff' together. Here are a few tips which I believe would help (This is where I need to take my own advice.)
- Be grateful -
Showing appreciation towards somebody is one way to make them feel special. Knowing that somebody acknowledges what you do for them encourages you to do more, it makes you proud that you have done something to make them happy. Even if it's something small, like making a cup of tea, always say thank you. - Be spontaneous -
You don't have to do this all the time, but every now and then it's lovely to get a random surprise. For a woman - buy her a bunch of flowers, make her breakfast in bed, or even just tell her how much you love her. For a man - get him some new aftershave, clean his shoes, plan a cheeky night for him for when he finishes work. You don't have to go over the top, it's often the little things that mean the most. - Plan a get-away -
This is one thing that we would probably never get to do, but if you have the chance then get a babysitter for 2-3 days and go away on a romantic break. I think this would be an amazing way to bring back the spark in a relationship as you can truly focus on each other. Go somewhere beautiful and try and find things that you both enjoy to do. - Find activities that bring you together -
It may take you a while to find activities that you both enjoy, but try as many as you can and eventually you will find what connects you the most - whether it's laughing at each other failing at mini-golf or playing the xbox together, there's always something for everybody. - Listen -
Talking to each other is probably the most important thing about a relationship. I'm often too scared to talk about my feelings as I worry that I will sound stupid or that my partner won't care. But infact I know deep down that when I have told him things, he has been the only person that has truly supported me and got me through. Don't be scared to talk about your feelings, especially to your partner. Let them know that you trust them with your worries, and you know that they will support you and try their best to pick you up. - Try 'new' things -
I think everybody knows what I mean by this.. Making love is the best way of connecting with your partner. If it's just not the same any more then try spicing it up. Talk about it, and understand what each other wants, don't just rush into it and go shopping for all of these toys/costumes. Sex is between two people, so you must always understand what the other person is feeling/wants.
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