Why we shouldn't judge others

We all do it, we all know what it means, but do we actually know what happened when we judge people? We do it to our friends, family and even people we don't know. A lot of people seem to thrive off of talking about other people, gossiping and even exposing others secrets. All of these things eventually cause stress to the person being spoken about.

When we judge somebody, what were actually doing is adding our own view into their story. If you think of a person as a puzzle, the last piece is your judgement or view.. once you insert that last piece into their puzzle,  you are inserting your own made up perspective of somebody into their reality. Although whatever your view is may not be what's really happening to them, you see it as reality. Eventually you start seeing somebody as what you think they are, not who they actually are.

When this happens, it can affect you as you may start to believe in 'your own view of somebody' so you start to dislike them, but whatever your view is, it isn't whats actually happening. We should learn to listen rather then talk, and support rather then gossip. If you are the person being judge or talked about, the only thing you can do is NOT care!! If somebody is happy to talk about you, or view you in a certain way without speaking to you and trying to understand you first, then why would you really care what they think?

Every single human being on their earth is the same, we all hurt, love, make mistakes, do stupid things and sometimes completely fuck our lives up. We all know we all do it, yet so quick to turn on somebody who is probably hurting. Imaging somebody making up their own perspective of you, and going round telling everybody as if it's the truth.. then you meet someone and they say "oh this person said this about you" and instantly you are made feel like somebody that you are not. We may not agree with things that others do, but it's not our place to judge and gossip and it's certainly not our place to turn people against others.

I'm not saying "don't express your emotions" or "don't talk to your friends to find answers" but really most of us take it way too far, talking about others like they wouldn't care. I've been told so much stuff about people that I don't like, I know some of their deepest secrets but out of respect to the people who opened up to me to talk about these problems, I would never discuss any of it with anybody else. Like I just said I don't really like these people, if I told their secrets I could probably ruin their lives.. but why on earth would I want to cause pain to somebody else who already has their own shit going on?? Even with the amount of shit I've put up with and these exact people trying to put me down and make me look like something I'm not, I would still not bring these 'secrets' up because they have absolutely nothing to do with me!!

So next time somebody does something that you don't like or agree with, instead of running to your nearest friend to gossip about it, talk to the person to hear why they did it or how they are feeling. Support them through these times instead of turning your back and discussing their lives with other people!